Twenty percent or 30% of the women who take oral birth control pills experience depression and have to take medication for it. So the difference just struck me. They terminated this study once it showed 3% depression for the men.
– Elisabeth Lloyd, Kinsey Institute
Gather round boys and girls and I will tell you a story of love, lust, and whiny, whiny men…
Once upon a time, a male birth control was found, one so powerful it “held the sperm count at 1 million per milliliter or less” and had an efficacy rate of 96%. The shot was similar to the female birth control shot Depo-Proveria, with efficacy rates that were approaching par with this well established option. During a study on this clearly viable option, however, it was discovered that a wicked witch had cast a spell on the potion, and as a result men would have to endure the agonies of mood swings, headache, increased appetite and weight gain. Fear not, dear audience, the brave men of this research project were not subjected to one minute more of these horrors, as the study was halted before completion, and women once again were tasked with preventing all the births. As God intended it.
Ok, we all had a bit of a laugh, but this is a seriously sad subject. Young women’s lives have been cut short because they were taking the pill. One of the most dangerous risks to women of taking the combined pill is the increased risk of deep vein thrombosis (2/10 000), which can be fatal. There is also an increased risk of breast cancer, cervical cancer and stroke. The advice from the regulatory agency? “The benefits outweigh the risks.”
So what gives? Why is it acceptable for women to continue to bear the burden of risk alone, while men are sheltered from side effects that their wives and girlfriends have been taught are a normal part of family planning since grade school? And, honestly, why coddle men like this? My male friends would gladly take a bullet for the women they love, why not let them take a shot in their ass for her, even if it comes with some breast tenderness and a few tears at the end of Forrest Gump? (She was the carrots to his peas. It’s beautiful, dammit).
Equality means equal control and equal responsibility, until this is achieved in regards to preventing unwanted pregnancy, we will never achieve that parity we claim to want so much – and we are so close. Women can die fighting for their country, and they can die working in the most dangerous fields along side their male counterparts… but they should not die trying to plan their families, not when it is in the place of a man having the blues, or a headache.
Kelly Ellard is a murderer, and, according to recent reports, she is also about to be a mother. She was granted a conjugal visit while serving a life sentence for the murder of 14 year old Reena Virk, whom she beat to death under a bridge when she was only 15 herself. She was sentenced in 2005 to life in prison, a term of 25 years in Canada, with no possibility of parole for 7 years. She is now 33 years old and 8 months pregnant with the child of a heroin addict who is serving a jail sentence himself for breaking into homes to finance his addiction. Read more →
“If you suffer from any mental illness, you know how many people will put you down for the pain you feel. I may be only one person but please hear me when I say: There is nothing wrong with you, and you are not alone.” – Lauren Rabin
Speculating about someone’s mental health status is one of the most damaging and dangerous things a person can do. Mental illness is what is termed an invisible disability, one that can be terminal. Those who struggle with it and continue to win the battle should be supported and applauded, not belittled and shamed. Read more →
*This was written on the second last day of my exile. I was in a pretty dark place. I have since had my admin privileges restored and am walking on sunshine.I will be posting to explain the details of how I lost, then found, my Science Pony self, but today I am focusing on trying to get some content together for all of you who stuck with me through the past week. It is appreciated, truly*
I recently had my Facebook page, Science Pony, stolen. It has been 5 days and so far there seems to be little recourse for regaining the page, which is refusing to moderate comments (allowing trolls to run roughshod over my work product) and still insists on using my likeness which is maddening. I am not sure what kind of sociopath feels entitled to a year of someone else’s work, or to their dreams, but I hope that they have to live with their actions for years to come, and that somewhere deep down in their blackened souls they feel a modicum of guilt. Their morals are bad, and they should feel bad. Read more →
There are few academics and media outlets who focus on the epidemic of violence that is a reality for the Aboriginal peoples in this country but it is undeniable. First Nations Canadians are 6 times more likely to die as a result of violence as compared to Caucasian Canadians. In total this group comprises a mere 5% of the population and yet accounts for 23% of its homicides.
This is shocking and it is unacceptable.
Those who do shed light on the brutal reality facing our Indigenous communities primarily focus on the plight of female victims alone, portraying the missing and murdered among this group as “human beings, worthy of justice”, and advocate that these mothers, sisters and daughters “should not be forgotten”. Let me be clear that these victims are most certainly deserving of justice, and this process often requires advocacy. For this reason, this treatment is both necessary and kind and should be applauded and encouraged.
Sadly this compassionate dignity is not often paid to male victims, which defies both reason and logic in the context of the science on this topic. Aboriginal men are nearly 3 times more likely to die than their female counterparts, meaning that slightly over 70% of all violent deaths in this community are of men and boys. Being male and Native in this country is clearly a dangerous birthright, yet as blogger Mônijâw so aptly opines:
“Aboriginal men are murdered extremely often, relative to all other groups, and their homicides are more rarely solved. And nobody really cares. And you can even say you don’t care in public, as a representative of the police. Because you know nobody else really cares either.”
Following this script closely, the Trudeau government has yet to even speak to the reality of the violence that faces Aboriginal men. As they push forward with their proposed inquiry into murdered and missing women and girls with an almost smug sureness that few among us will fact check the numbers on this issues, or be that bothered by what they show, I have to wonder – are they right? Does anyone besides the families of these murdered and missing men care if they receive the justice that they are equally worthy of?
I am not sure how an inquiry which neglects almost 3/4th of victims is meant to produce solutions, I just hope it somehow still does. The need for them is clear and urgent, and this sad fact is evidence based.
There is a petition for a gender inclusive inquiry here.
Please take a minute to show your support.
I am going to let you in on something that might come as a shock. I need you to just have faith that we can handle this together.
I am a human woman. I know that this is a bombshell. Here you all believed me to be a pony this entire time. Deep breath, because I am not even close to finished yet. I am not always as attractive in real life as I am in my profile pictures. I use the best pictures I can to represent my brand on this page and my site. I then use filters, and crop the images further, to make these best likenesses of myself into something even better. Deep down I suppose I want you to all like me, and think I am pretty. I am sorry I have been so dishonest with you. As you can see, I look different in different pictures. Sometimes I look attractive and sometimes a picture isn’t actually about simply documenting my loveliness for future generations: